Meet George and Janet Shepherd. They've been married for about a year. They appreciate and understand each other so much more than before they stood at the altar. There is, however, one thing. I'll let Janet and George speak:
Janet is talking with her friend Mary.
Janet: There is one thing I can't understand about George."
Mary: What is that?
Janet: It is like this. When I fix something nice for George, something I know he'll like, and I give it to him, his reaction is so . . . so . . . so strange."
Mary: How is that?
Janet: Well . . . he gets this kind of a look on his face. It is like he is afraid to touch what I've fixed.
Mary: Then he refuses it?
Janet: No. After almost a minute he'll smile, take it from me and eat it. He does enjoy what I fix, but I just don't get it, that initial reaction. I wish I could see inside of him, to see what he is thinking.
Mary: Find a way to get him tell you, to talk about it.
Meanwhile, George is talking with his friend Pete.
George: Has one scene in a movie ever made a lasting impression on you?
Pete: Well, maybe. I'm not sure. Why did you ask?
George: When I was very young I saw a movie about the Garden of Eden. Not just once, but several times. Dad had the movie and showed it to many groups, mostly churches, and I usually went along.
Pete: So, what was it about this movie?
George: The scene about the Temptation really bothered me. It would play over in my mind again and again. At night I dreamed that I was right there in Eden.
Pete: Does it still bother you today?
George: It didn't until I got married.
Pete: Wow! How does this happen?
George: It is when Janet fixes something nice and brings it to me. Then she says softly and sweetly, "Here, try it. It is good." It sounds just like Eve when she handed the fruit to Adam.
Often we have no idea what influences the way another person takes what we say or do. If only we knew, we might know how to make a better presentation. George knew what affected him, but many times we don't know what motivates our reactions. Mary's advice was good. If we don't understand someone, it may help to have him or her talk about it.